Children have a natural desire for limits and boundaries. Children sometimes act as if they are in charge, but really crave boundaries. Boundaries come in many forms, and are healthy and important ways to establish respect and mutual consideration. In a way they are like fences that protect children.

There are personal boundaries, where we respect each other's privacy in a family. And there are hierarchical boundaries that give parents the ability to limit children's activities and say no without feeling guilty. Physical boundaries are important as well, for safety and security. Parents are responsible for creating and maintaining these healthy boundaries so children can feel respected, safe and cared for.

Finally children need to know the difference between wants and needs. Wants may never be achieved, however needs should be taken care of in the family. It's easy to get caught up in the moment and to give kids what they want because we feel bad about withholding something, or saying no. But remember, children need to experience situations where they don't get everything they want, so they will be able to manage in a world that will bring frustration. Setting limits and boundaries will give our children the skills they need to flourish as they grow. Call Cynthia Dobroski, LCPC at Quest, if you could benefit from help in setting family boundaries. 630-544-3324